Are you looking for tips on how to gain confidence? Well, you’re in the right place!
Because I’ve struggled with my own confidence, even when it came to starting this blog (by the way, this is the first post I ever published), I want to share some confidence-boosting tips that have helped make a difference in my life over the past few years.
What is Confidence
But before I share those tips, let’s define confidence. Confidence is the certainty in one’s own abilities and qualities
It is the belief in yourself that you are capable of accomplishing what you want and what is necessary. Confidence set in action equals success.
It’s no secret that we’ve all struggled with confidence at some point in our life. But you can decide today to make the choice to become a more confident you.
But building your confidence doesn’t happen over night. My confidence journey took time, daily practice, and even some tears. And it was all worth it! I love the confident woman I’ve grown into and am so proud of myself for putting in the work.
So are you ready to tackle your confidence? I got you covered.
Here are the methods I used and continue to use to keep my confidence where it needs to be.
5 Tips on How to Gain Confidence
1. Daily Affirmations
Speak positivity into yourself. Every day and all day. You can achieve this through affirmations. Affirmations are sentences or phrases that you can write down or say out loud to affect change in the conscious and subconscious mind.
Affirmations should be positive and should be repeated or written daily to influence change. You can keep your affirmations in a journal, on your phone, or even write them on a sticky note. Post your sticky note in a place you’ll see it often – like in the mirror of your bathroom.
I usually keep my affirmations on my phone via the My Affirmations App. The app has prewritten affirmations but also allows you to create your own.
You can set the affirmations to display on your phone at certain times throughout the day. Check it out for download in the Google Play Store.
2. Focus On Your Strengths
We’re all good at something. I’m sure you’ve heard that before. Guess what? It’s absolutely true.
When it comes to thinking about what we’re good at, we often tend to limit ourselves in what we think we can be good at. You can honestly be good at anything – it doesn’t matter if someone else finds it weird or think its uncool.
For example, I’m good at Math. Not only am I good at it, I genuinely like it – especially Algebra and Calculus. Your strength doesn’t have to be a school subject like mine (remember – no limits).
It could be dancing, skateboarding, crocheting, styling hair, or even doing makeup. Focusing on your strengths reinforces the positivity that aids in you feeling good about yourself.
3. Put Effort into Your Appearance
Believe it or not, your appearance affects your confidence. I realized this around my junior year in college. Most days I would just throw on sweats and a t-shirt to go to class.
But when I began making an effort to dress better, I eventually felt so good about myself that I started to wonder why I hadn’t always put in the effort.
When making an effort to dress up, remember to dress up for yourself. Wear clothes that make you feel great. I always dress in clothes that I know I look good in and this is an instant confident booster.
Working out and eating right are other actions you can take to build confidence. Personally, I use to dread working out, until I found activities that I enjoyed like dance workouts and HIIT routines
Not only will working out increase your dopamine (feel-good hormone) levels, it will also tighten and tone your body leading to a rise in your confidence.
I remember when I was on a weight loss journey and I ended up losing about 20 pounds. I looked so good that no one could tell me anything. No one – and I have no shame whatsoever in admitting that.
Eating right will make you feel good physically and mentally. It gives me so much satisfaction to know that I’m making healthy choices and won’t have to worry about a stomach ache later because I ate some junk food.
If you’re feeling uneasy about not being able to eat your favorite foods – DON’T. All of your favorite foods can be recreated with healthier options that will taste just as good.
Always do your own research before starting a new healthy lifestyle and be sure to find a lifestyle that’s manageable, maintainable, and that works for you.
If you’d like some additional tips on how to always look your best, check out my blog post on 10 Ways to Always Look Your Best.
4. Uplift Others
Acts of kindness help build confidence. When you do for others, it makes you feel good. Acts of kindness are limitless. Give a compliment. Flash a smile. Go volunteer and give back to your community.
Buy a friend some lunch. Remember to say “please” and “thank you”. Do something! As long as it is kind and genuine, I’m sure the gesture will be greatly appreciated.
Nothing makes my day more than seeing someone’s face light up after being complimented.
5. Learn Self-Acceptance
For a long time, I didn’t accept myself. I didn’t accept my flaws or mistakes, and I was always striving for perfection.
Perfection does not exist, and the sooner you realize that the better off you will be. Whenever I believed I fell short, it only crushed my spirits more.
I feel like I spent over half of my life trying to be perfect which only lead to stress and anxiety. But I accept the fact that I am not perfect and that I will make mistakes. And that’s ok.
The point I’m trying to make is don’t be too hard on yourself. You are imperfectly perfect. We all are.
Are You Ready for A Confidence Boost
So there you have it! A simple guide to build and maintain confidence. Start with these basics, and work on at least one tip each day.
Say your affirmations and focus on things you’ve accomplished. Put some effort into making yourself look presentable. Be kind to others, and remember to accept yourself and love yourself unconditionally.
Building your confidence will not be an overnight process, but as long as you put in the work, I promise you will grow into the confident person you were meant to be.
For More Tips on How To Love Yourself and Be Confident, check out these posts!
- How to Kick Bad Habits that Destroy Your Self-Esteem
- The 30 Day Self Love Challenge: Love Yourself Everyday
- Practical Ways to Feel Comfortable in Your Own Skin